It’s very difficult for any honest, self-respecting and incorruptible Zambian to trust and respect Edgar Lungu and his minions.
People are loyal to those who are loyal to them. People have faith in those who have faith in them. People respect and trust those who fulfil their promises to them.
Instead of honouring a stewardship duty, Edgar and his minions’ main preoccupation has been to enrich themselves, enjoy themselves, travel around the world, drink, eat and have merry at the expense of the Zambian people.
In a very short time, look at how much wealth Edgar and his minions have accumulated! Look at how fat they have all become! Look at how their dressing has changed! Look at how the cars they drive have changed! Look at the houses and property they now own! Look at how corrupt they have become! Look at how arrogant and intolerant they have become! Look at how they have acquired new well-to-do friends in a very short time! Every crooked, unscrupulous businessman in the country is today their friend. Is Edgar and his minions worth of the trust, respect and loyalty of the masses of the Zambian people? Not after all these betrayals.
Malcom X said, “To me, the thing that is worse than death is betrayal. You see, I could conceive death, but I could not conceive betrayal.” Betrayal damages the roots from which respect, trust and loyalty grows. Most of our institutions and their leaders are losing the respect and trust of the masses of our people. The worst pain in the world goes beyond the physical. Even further beyond any other emotional pain one can feel, it is the betrayal of those who are loyal to you. And betrayal is never easy to handle and there is no right way to accept it.
For there to be betrayal, there would have to have been trust first. People were taken by the lies, posturing and even bribes to give them their support. Betrayal is common for people with no conscience. But trust, once lost, could not be easily found. Not in a year, perhaps not even in a lifetime.
It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a person you supported, trusted or befriended.
It is said that betrayal is the only truth that sticks. Trust is like a vase, once it’s broken, though you can fix it, the vase will never be same again. Trust is something that is difficult to establish. It is very fragile that it needs to be taken care of. Once trust breaks or shatters into pieces, it is very difficult to rebuild it. Trust is the easiest thing in the world to lose, and the hardest thing in the world to get back.
Don’t betray people who trust you – respect them. It takes a lot for people to trust you, so treat their trust like precious porcelain. Trust is always earned, never given. In order to establish trust, it is first important that you be trustworthy. This means you should be forthright with all your dealings. A corrupt and tyrannical politician cannot be trusted for long.
It is said that trust is like blood pressure – it is silent, vital to good health, and if abused, it can be deadly. The toughest thing about the power of trust is that it is very difficult to build and very easy to destroy. Trust is built and maintained by many small actions over time.
Trust is not a matter of technique, tricks, or tools but of character.
We are trusted because of our way of being, not because of our polished exteriors or our expertly crafted communications. The glue that holds all relationships together – including the relationship between the leader and the led – is trust, and trust is based on integrity. People follow leaders by choice. Without trust, at best you get compliance. Leadership requires brains, trust and ethics. And these are the key challenges for Edgar and his minions.
It is said that to be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved. Trust is built with consistency. “Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters,” wrote Albert Einstein.
The most precious thing in this world is trust. It can take years to earn it and only a matter of seconds to lose, so it’s important to keep trust at the centre of everything you do. It can make a big difference in your life and leadership.
When people see commitments are met with consistency, they tend to develop trust. Trust is the key to persuasion. People want to support a leader they can trust – a leader that has morals, values, and integrity. Your words must match what you do. In so many words, you need to show sincerity with your words. Trust is like a mirror, once it’s broken, it is never the same.
It is said that trust is like a sticker; once removed, it does not stick anymore as it did before;
trust is like a paper, once crumpled, it can’t be perfect again.
In “Parable of the Talents”, Octavia Butler, advised, “Choose your leaders with wisdom and forethought. To be led by a coward is to be controlled by all that the coward fears.
To be led by a fool is to be led by the opportunists who control the fool.
To be led by a thief is to offer up your most precious treasures to be stolen.
To be led by a liar is to ask to be told lies.
To be led by a tyrant is to sell yourself and those you love into slavery.”