Anger is never without a reason

Brian Mushimba, the Minister of Transport and Communications, says there is anger and bitterness that has removed the basic civility and cordiality Zambians had been known for.

“I have come to the realisation of a disturbing trend taking hold in our psyche as a people. The cynicism and lack of trust in anything and among ourselves. The anger and bitterness that even removes the basic civility and cordiality I once knew Zambians had. I’m not very sure what is fueling this…I have not seen before the anger and the baldness it’s being exhibited with. It’s something new and foreign we are importing. And we don’t even fully understand what this thing we are embracing is capable of doing among ourselves. Everyone is being turned against everyone. If I belong to a political persuasion you don’t subscribe to, then it’s fair game to insult me, belittle me, shout at me and throw stones at me even when what is needed is more love amongst us. I’m perturbed by this new and emerging Zambia,” writes Mushimba in a Facebook posting.

Feelings of anger arise due to how we interpret and react to certain situations. Everyone has their own triggers for what makes them angry, but some common ones include situations in which we feel: threatened or attacked; frustrated or powerless; like we’re being invalidated or treated unfairly; and like people are not respecting our feelings or possessions.

People can interpret situations differently, so a situation that makes you feel very angry may not make someone else feel angry at all – for example, other reactions could include annoyance, hurt or amusement. But just because we can interpret things differently, it doesn’t mean that you’re interpreting things ‘wrong’ if you get angry.

How you interpret and react to a situation can depend on lots of factors in your life, including: your childhood and upbringing; past experiences; and current circumstances.

Today we have a president of our Republic who is everyday threatening political opponents, arresting and detaining, belittling and ridiculing them.

Edgar Lungu has planted so much hatred, bitterness and anger in our people. Edgar leads a political party that leads in violence against political opponents. It’s a political party that also leads in intraparty violence. When they are not hacking opposition members with pangas, they are hacking each other within the same party.

Edgar’s language and actions are of violence, anger and resentment.

It is therefore Edgar and the Patriotic Front that have planted a toothache in the nation. They are the main source of this bitterness and anger.

The economic situation is also not helping matters. The growing inequality and unemployment are exacerbating this bitterness and anger. While Edgar and his minions are becoming richer and richer by the day, the great majority of our people are becoming poorer and poorer.

We have a proverbial saying of the mid 17th century, ‘Hungry man is an angry man, a someone deprived of a basic necessity will not be easily placated.’

Poor leadership, poor governance breeds anger. A corrupt, unjust and unfair society becomes a hive of bitterness, anger, frustration and resentment.

While anger is a biological necessity, it can rapidly morph from a life-preserving force to a deadly one.

And there’s no such thing as a bitter person who keeps the bitterness to himself.

John Ortberg Jr. said, “Bitterness is like drinking rat poison and waiting for the rat to die.”

Only courageous hearts can endure the bitterness of truth.

Hurt leads to bitterness, bitterness to anger, travel too far that road and the way is lost.

What Mushimba should know is that anger is never without a reason.

When the root is bitterness, imagine what the fruit might be!

Bitterness can be corrosive. It can rewrite your memories as if it were scrubbing a crime scene clean, until in the end you only remember what suits you.

Acrid bitterness inevitably seeps into the lives of people who harbour grudges and suppress anger, and bitterness is always a poison.  It keeps your pain alive instead of letting you deal with it and get beyond it.  Bitterness sentences you to relive the hurt over and over.

Maya Angelou said, “Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean.”

The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.

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