Edgar Lungu says he is ready for criticism, falsehoods and insults about what his government is doing.
Since when? He’s lying!
Edgar is the most intolerant president Zambia has ever had.
There are many people who have been arrested for criticising, insulting and defaming Edgar than any other Zambian president.
And just last week Sean Tembo was arrested for insulting Edgar! So who is Edgar trying to fool. Zambians know him by his deeds – his cruelty, abuse of the police and the courts to harass and silence his critics.
“What I have seen in Zambia is that whatever you do, you are going to be criticised so I am ready for criticism. I am ready for insults, I’m ready for falsehoods about what government is doing…” says Edgar.
None of us enjoy getting criticised. It’s human nature to enjoy being right and feel a sense of hurt when we’re wrong. The thing is, we all need criticism. Although we’re generally drawn to like-minded people, those who disagree with us truly help us grow. The ones who call us out, point out our weaknesses and flaws.
Yes, the ones who challenge us make us better.
There are times when we shouldn’t listen to criticism – for example, when it’s based on falsehood or given in a way that’s meant to destroy your sense of self-worth.
But in reality, that’s not usually the case.
When we’re on the receiving end of criticism, our goal should be to learn from the feedback, and not let emotion close our minds. The key is to be proactive, not reactive.
It’s not wise to sidestep the issue. Edgar and his ‘spin’ doctors are experts at this. But refusing to tackle issues head-on is not only bad form, it’s also self-defeating.
The first step in improving any weakness: recognise that it’s there.
It doesn’t do to shift the blame.
For Edgar, it’s always the other politician’s fault.
We can’t control others, but we can work on ourselves. When we accept criticism, apply it, and move forward, not only do we benefit – but others benefit from our example.
Edgar’s behaviour is very strange. One wouldn’t be wrong to associate his response to criticism with narcissism.
A definite sign that you may be dealing with a person who suffers from narcissistic personality disorder is their inability to accept any criticism, constructive or otherwise.
The truth of the matter is the narcissistic personality has a very flimsy sense of ‘self’. The narcissistic personality is a ‘mirage’, a false self-pretending to be everything that he would really like to – but doesn’t feel – about him. The narcissist’s fragile emotions depend on being ‘important’, ‘special’ and ‘admired’.
When a narcissist personality is triggered by feeling criticised, you will notice that he will immediately switch to non-accountability and projection. There will be intense resistance, and if you try to pursue the point, then you will see the narcissistic personality emerge.
For a narcissistic personality to admit he is wrong is emotional annihilation. The narcissist is already consumed with incredible dark guilt, and a horrific sense of ‘being bad’, and has been trying to avoid these feelings by creating a false self-persona to be anything but this ‘bad’ person. The problem is, because the false self is so central to the narcissistic personality, this individual has no sense of conscience, remorse or empathy for others. It is all about the narcissistic personality retaining his false self.
The shame that plagues the narcissistic personality, which will never be acknowledged or dealt with by the narcissist, has to be projected out at others. Therefore, any perceived criticism will be met with denial, blame-shifting, scapegoating, and any tactic that is required to avoid taking any responsibility or suffer the narcissistic injury of even greater shame.
When faced with the narcissistic personality trait of the inability to accept criticism, not only will you be shocked at what the narcissist perceives as ‘criticism’ – you will realise that there are incredible pathological stories going on in this person’s mind for them to perceive ‘criticism’ resulting from regular conversations and events that healthy individuals would not construct as criticism.
The narcissistic personality trait of inability to accept criticism – as well as many other pathological flaws – will make you feel like you are walking on broken glass, and that this person’s demands as to how you should treat him are illogical, entitled and incredibly unsafe for you.
If you are confronted with this narcissistic personality trait of the inability to accept criticism, it is suggested that you pull away, preserve your sense of decency and sanity and do not try to force the point. Implementing boundaries and possibly creating no contact with this person is highly recommended.